“Train up a child in the way he should go;
even when he is old he will not depart from it.” (ESV)
As women we have the primary responsibility to care for and train our children. We want to train our children in the way of respect and obedience. We train our children, firstly, by setting a godly example. For instance, we can model respect by being respectful towards our husbands.
As our children grow they learn that certain behaviors are acceptable while others are not. Parents design consequences that will encourage the desired behavior. The key to parenting success is understanding and anticipating your child’s behavior.
A child will learn self-control and kindness when a parent is consistently considerate and thoughtful. Children should never hear derogatory words directed at them by their parents. A child can be told that their behavior is unacceptable, but labelling children as lazy or stupid or calling a child a brat, or worse, is injurious to the child’s self-concept. Words like this can linger in the child’s mind for years to come. It s better to highlight the child’s capabilities and draw attention to the good.
As parents we cannot expect to be perfect, but we can apologize to our children if we are in the wrong. It encourages them to see that we too are learning how to be respectful and obedient.
“Discipline your children, and they will give you peace; they will bring you the delights you desire.” Proverbs 29:17 (NIV)
Prayer–Heavenly Father, help us to be loving and patient with our children, and to train them humbly and consistently in the way the way of respect and obedience as you direct us. Amen.