As I’ve grown older I’ve discovered that it’s OK to take time to unwind. Last week was a bit of a roller coaster as I had some decision making to do. Decision making is work. It can, in fact, be very hard work, the kind of work you need to unwind from later.
After I made the decision, which I had spent some time deliberating, my husband and I drove to a nice coffee shop to unwind.
In these times it feels like many elements of my mind have been activated. They need to calm down and go back to their places, kind of like children in a classroom returning to their desks.
In the past I’ve tended to push myself on to the next thing, and then the next, and the next, often ignoring the softly spoken messages of my body and subconscious mind. I am finding much more harmony and peace by paying attention instead.
The process can take longer than I anticipated. But the end result is worth it. It’s kind of like the difference between cleaning up your house and throwing everything into a closet and closing the door, as opposed to taking the time to put each item in a special place.
The unwinding process involves inviting and examining those “intrusive” thoughts that were stirred up. They are kind of like children. If you immediately give your complete attention to them, then they will quickly run off and play. But if you ignore them, then they keep nagging.
We can’t seem to disregard the truth begging our attention, without paying a price. It’s these unresolved issues that keep on taking a toll in stress. The sooner we face them and work through them, the sooner we can return to a place of calm. They just don’t seem to go away by themselves when we ignore them.
All the things that were stirred up by my decision required time to process and now I feel more peaceful than I did beforehand, because I squarely faced the underlying issues.